Most people just look at it from their perspective. If they think you’re overreacting then they become dismissive. But if I cannot feel safe to speak to you about how I feel, then there is no need for us to have a close relationship/friendship because it means I don’t matter to you. And if I don’t matter to you, then what is the point of you being in my life?
Yes sis! I want people to relate to me so I want to from time to time use my personal experiences. Now one can tell you how to feel! Our experiences are not someone else’s. We are allowed to feel!!!
Thank you my love! I know all to well of growing up especially with Caribbean parents not allowing you to feel. That’s quite too common. At least we know better so we can break the cycle for our children and future generation. I love you and you matter to me ♥️
And another thing. In relationships, be it friendships or whatever we need to give each other safe space to be able speak about things. If I’m telling you My feelings were hurt by something you did and you don’t care to address it then that means you don’t care about my feelings. And if you don’t care about my feelings that can have such a negative impact on me then how can you care about me???? Or do people just not look at it this way ??
Wow! This is really good. Loved how you had your own experiences cause we can definitely relate. This is something a lot of people need to understand. You don’t have to agree but u cannot tell me how to feel about a situation. My feelings matter. If i am letting you know how I feel about something then who are you to dismiss how I feel because you don’t see it how I do. Right there You are showing me my feelings don’t matter. So how can we have a positive relationship?? Respect my feelings!!!
Another power packed episode👏. Our feelings are valid, all of it! Growing up in the Caribbean it was almost a non existent thing to say how or what you feel and if you did you had to be careful not to hurt others…ridiculous! In relationships, persons ought to create a safe space to express their feelings. This can erase so many issues.
4 years ago
Thanks love!! Yes it’s important for us to hear each other out. Our feelings matter.
4 years ago
Most people just look at it from their perspective. If they think you’re overreacting then they become dismissive. But if I cannot feel safe to speak to you about how I feel, then there is no need for us to have a close relationship/friendship because it means I don’t matter to you. And if I don’t matter to you, then what is the point of you being in my life?
4 years ago
Yes sis! I want people to relate to me so I want to from time to time use my personal experiences. Now one can tell you how to feel! Our experiences are not someone else’s. We are allowed to feel!!!
4 years ago
Thank you my love! I know all to well of growing up especially with Caribbean parents not allowing you to feel. That’s quite too common. At least we know better so we can break the cycle for our children and future generation. I love you and you matter to me ♥️
4 years ago
Thank you my darling!! Your feelings are valid. They matter. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I love and appreciate you ♥️
4 years ago
Thanks my dear. I appreciate the support!!
4 years ago
Hmm gaslighting is the thing. Plus listening to each other is so important no matter what the situation is. Another great piece 👏
4 years ago
And another thing. In relationships, be it friendships or whatever we need to give each other safe space to be able speak about things. If I’m telling you My feelings were hurt by something you did and you don’t care to address it then that means you don’t care about my feelings. And if you don’t care about my feelings that can have such a negative impact on me then how can you care about me???? Or do people just not look at it this way ??
4 years ago
Wow! This is really good. Loved how you had your own experiences cause we can definitely relate. This is something a lot of people need to understand. You don’t have to agree but u cannot tell me how to feel about a situation. My feelings matter. If i am letting you know how I feel about something then who are you to dismiss how I feel because you don’t see it how I do. Right there You are showing me my feelings don’t matter. So how can we have a positive relationship?? Respect my feelings!!!
4 years ago
Another power packed episode👏. Our feelings are valid, all of it! Growing up in the Caribbean it was almost a non existent thing to say how or what you feel and if you did you had to be careful not to hurt others…ridiculous! In relationships, persons ought to create a safe space to express their feelings. This can erase so many issues.